I have never been domesticated. In fact I am pretty sure that it is allergic to me, or the other way round as whenever I do start cleaning I sneeze and get puffy eyes. My bedroom was always a complete pig sty growing up. I was a typical teen that refused to tidy up the floordrobe, or the hundreds of dirty plates or glasses tucked under my bed from last Christmas. I was that bad.
Moving out the first few times and I still was very undomesticated. Cleaning was a “if we have visitors” occasion which was never, and the washing up would pile up. When I moved in with one of my mummy-friends, she was a very tidy and clean person and I drove her insane. Despite the fact deep down I wanted to be like her, it just never rubbed off on me. The arguments I used to have with my own mum about my tidiness were awful but nothing and no one could ever change my terrible habits.
When I first moved in with Hubby in Essex when we still just had P1 and I was pregnant with P2, things didn’t get any better. The floor of our bedroom was barely noticeable under heaps of clothes and paperwork. P1s bedroom was covered in toys with a tiny pathway to her bed. It was bad. Thankfully, the dirty plates under the bed situation had got better but they just sat next to the sink waiting to be washed for days instead. It grated on me and it grated on Hubby but no matter how many times I told myself I’d change, I never did.
Moving to Sevenoaks did change things about me. At first I made a huge effort to keep things looking tidy, toys were put away, washing up was done and clothes washing was washed and folded daily. But gradually things did slip back into the past. Our problem is definitely clutter vs lack of space. It made me upset. We have such a beautiful home (if you forget the peeling paint, broken heated floor and grubby hand prints up the wall) and I so desperately want to be like those mums I read on other blogs with stunning houses.
It’s only been in the past 6 months or so that I’ve really started making an effort with our home in general. We used to always do a mass tidy up and clean, it would leave us feeling incredibly proud and grateful but would slowly get worse over the following weeks to the point we’d have to do another big tidy and clean. Becoming more social means you have friends pop by at a moments notice and you also get to see other peoples homes and the way they do things.
I am so inspired by the friends that I have. Most of them cook from scratch every meal, they all have tidy and clean homes and they are all definitely domesticated real mothers. I look at them, all with less children than me, and am completely in awe. I think I’m missing the domestication gene. It’s missed me somewhere along the line. But after having my friend from Essex round the other day I took on some real tips and have put them into action.
I have known N for nearly 6 years. We’ve been on holiday together, we’ve laughed together, we’ve fallen out, we’ve cried but ultimately she is my best friend. We go months, years without seeing each other but fall straight back to normal when we do meet up. When she was over N was washing up everything despite being told to sit down. She told me about her routines. N is exactly how I want to be, maybe not to the obsessive extremes that she is and knows that she is. But I want to be proud of my home.
Since she left I’ve completely transformed. I feel calmer and excited about being tidy and clean. Hubby has said it is very strange to see me wandering around washing up, folding clothes as soon as they come out of the tumble dryer and how the floors are clear, washed and hoovered twice in a day. I am exhausted today and feel like my mind is going over drive. I am desperate to transform our lives by keeping everything spotless. I’ve still got to declutter, sort old clothes of mine and the girls and generally make our home look much more presentable. But with three daughters running loose I know this will be a never ending battle.
To celebrate my new found domestication and to help push me forward in the right direction, Vanish have offered my readers the chance to win some amazing goodies, 1x Vanish Power Shots Fabric Stain Remover RRP £4.50, 1x Vanish Gold Pre-Treat Fabric Stain Remover Gel £4, 1x Vanish Oxi Action Spray £4.59 and 1x Vanish Gold Oxi Action Fabric Stain Remover Gel £5.70. I’ve never used Vanish products before but have been completely amazed by their performance. So many baby clothes that have been stained with poop have been transformed. Along with our bed covers.
The Vanish Power Shots are put inside the drum, they are double concentrated and help to get rid of stains and hard to remove dirt. The Pre-Treat Gel is rubbed directly onto the stain before going into the wash. Then the Spray is sprayed directly onto the stained fabric before going in the wash. The Gold Oxi Action Fabric stain remover goes into the drawer of your washing machine and acts just the same as your normal detergent. It has certainly changed the way we wash things. It’s given us the added confidence that P3 will not be wearing clothes stains any more.
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